You Be You

Sometimes rivals are represented by teams we compete against or a person we hope to outdo. A coworker can be a rival, a prettier or more athletic girl. But perhaps the greatest battle—the greatest rival—is the one we create in our minds. The person we think everyone wants us to be. We create a false rival inside our heads, pretending to be someone else so that others will notice us. So that we feel proud of who we are. But you can’t be anything but YOU.

We imagine someone perfect, without any flaws. The person we can’t ever be. We look around and collect the greatest attributes from others and put that expectation on ourselves. Similar to Laura wanting to be pretty like her sister Mary.

To be completely honest—I haven’t watched a single minute of March Madness this year. But I have been lost in thought about the rivals in my life. I couldn’t help myself… I had to re-watch The Rivals episode from season four. Watch it and see if you identify with Charles and Laura the way I did.

For Charles, he wanted to be successful to provide for his family. Being a farmer didn’t seem like enough, he imagined becoming something more. The freighting contract sounded like success until he found himself never with the family he loved. His rival was the lie that he needed to be something other than what he truly was. Charles returns home, disappointed that he couldn’t be more than a simple farmer. But that’s all Caroline ever wanted him to be.

Laura sought after the attention of Jimmy Hill, but deep down it wasn’t about Jimmy at all. It was about liking herself. All the comparing and striving to be someone she wasn’t didn’t make anyone like her more, she was left with a few bruised apples and feeling downright foolish.

God must like Laura Ingalls a lot, and so should you… I expect you to conduct yourself like Laura Ingalls, not some poor imitation of someone else.

–Caroline Ingalls “The Rivals” Season Four

I’ve had my share of foolish moments. Times when I wanted to be anything other than who I was created to be. Even now I imagine being a better wife and mother. A more accomplished writer. A more engaging speaker. A better friend. The truth is—I can only be who I am. And when I’m fully experiencing that reality, true joy zings through me … like Laura hitting a home-run in the schoolyard.

God made each of us on purpose, the exact masterpiece He imagined. God looks at you and at me and says, “She’s perfect… He’s just what I wanted to create.”

You saw who you created me to be before I became me!
Before I’d ever seen the light of day,
the number of days you planned for me
were already recorded in your book.

Psalms 139:16 TPT

Let’s be who God created us to be. You be YOU and I’ll be me.

Much love,

Wendi Lou

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11 Comments on “You Be You

  1. This is just what everyone needs to hear. The young and even the not-so-young alike. It’s sad to see so many kids try grow up too fast instead of just being themselves and enjoying life right here and now. Thank you for being such a good role model.

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  2. No truer words have ever been spoken! Be you, believe in yourself, and teach your daughters to be that way too. These days there is so much negativity out there, young girls so often resort to drastic measures to cope, like cutting, eating disorders etc. Pump up your children, tell them how great they are, listen to them. Support their dreams and aspirations, these are the tools that will help them to achieve their goals and cope with whatever life may throw at them. And above all, love them, and make sure they understand you are ALWAYS in their corner. This way, they know they can come to you for help and support when needed for the little things AND the big ones alike. ❤️

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    • Yes Theresa… thank you for your comment! I am trying to be so diligent with my daughter in these ways. And praying for her to be confident in the young lady God has made her to be.

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      • Hi Wendi. It is so important to keep those lines open. My youngest is 14 and a friend of hers was going through some of these issues, but my daughter came to me for help on how to help her friend. I spoke to the mom directly, but I was never prouder of my Olivia Grace… who as an aside was named so the Grace of God would protect her AND after your character Baby Grace from Little House. ❤️

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      • Hi Wendi. It is so important to keep those lines open. My youngest is 14 and a friend of hers was going through some of these issues, but my daughter came to me for help on how to help her friend. I spoke to the mom directly, but I was never prouder of my Olivia Grace… who as an aside was named so the Grace of God would protect her AND after your character Baby Grace from Little House. ❤️

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  3. Hi Wendi, I love this episode and just watched it again yesterday. Makes you think that success isn’t always important, but family is and liking yourself is just as important. Two good lessons learned in this episode. Both quotes are beautiful too. Charles and Caroline are the best couple, always worked well together and put their family’s best interests first. Thank you for sharing this post.

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  4. The Rivals its hard to be myself at times. there are times i want to be thin like my sister, i want to be beautiful like her and loving like her. We argue at times but i just wish i could be more like my sister and have her body. reasons why i weigh 200 pounds and she does not and i want to go back down to 120 pounds and i want to get off my meds so i can be healthy like she is. there are times i am jealous of my sister because i am over wight and have diabetes, and high blood pressure and i suffer from anxieties and have to be on all these meds and my sister does not.
    i feel like i am like Laura when i think like this

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  5. So beautifully stated. Having left an incredibly mentally/emotionally abusive marriage situation, where I was constantly told I was stupid and worthless, I have had to climb out of that pit, with God’s help, and realize that I have worth and value to Him. Your blog post was Divinely inspired and is a special blessing to so many of us who are struggling with self-worth. God Bless you, Wendi. ❤

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