I was listening to a podcast the other day about positivity and the words we say to ourselves… (thanks Levi Lusko).
If we breath doubt and fear and regret to ourselves, then those feelings will be the overflow of our hearts. We can’t help but shower negativity on the people around us when it’s happening inside.
It got me thinking how critical I can be internally, and that the criticism is bound to spill over on the people I love most.
Especially my teenage kids.
Because you know… there’s a lot to correct and point out and guide them in right now. It’s hard to bite my tongue. Hard not to get angry over their stuff all over the house. One more stinky sock left in my car. And why is it so difficult to turn off the bathroom light?
The one thing they need to hear is “I am loved, I am accepted—no matter what I might do.”
Funny… that’s what I need to hear too.
So, I’m finding small ways to build up instead of set straight. To put courage into them, not strip it away. To focus more on who they are, not what they do.
Now don’t get me wrong… there’s rules and consequences in our house—there has to be. But the shift comes when we change the dialogue inside our minds which transforms the way we interact with the “fa-boo-lous” people in our lives.
What can you do to build up yourself and others in the process? I’m using my fun letter board, but what ideas do you have?